Thursday, June 23, 2011

Expressing Love with Time n Technology....



As we all know that in ancient times during early period of civilisation, when there was no language for them to interact with each other, people used to express themselves with certain facial expressions and indications...Historians believe that, prime reasons behind the development of language must have been Food, Security and Expression of Love n Sexual desire....

And in the long run with the development of language, people stared innovating new ways to express their Love and feelings, such as....Smiling, Staring, Wandering around, Leaving a note into books, writing their name together into a heart on trees n walls,  giving flowers n gifts etc...etc....

But after doing all this, just a two minutes affair of telling "I LOVE YOU" to each other was still a problem for them, and they used to take months and years for the right moment to come...So, just to avoid this two minutes nerve breaking situation, people started using "LOVE LETTER TECHNOLOGY"....

In fact for a long period of time this "LOVE LETTER TECHNOLOGY" was the most suitable n appropriate means for them, there was a sense of security into it, as the chances of situation getting adverse was less with love letters.

But slowly over the period of time these colourful Love letters were replaced by Telephones and Mobile Phones....Actually Phones have become an integral part of our Love Stories now, even the Bollywood heroes started telling.........."What is your mobile number????

But problem of saying 'I LOVE YOU" for the first time was still there, because after all Phone is not something which could enhance one's courage and confidence, so that He or She could simply dial a number and say  "Hello, I Love you"....

Therefore, to make it more easier n safer, people started sending some friendly n romantic SMSs with these Mobile Phones and keep on waiting for an affirmative reply from the other end, and once they start getting green signal in the form of SMSs, they could easily move forward and express their Love....



And now with the use of modern technologies n techniques our Gen-next has gone miles ahead, and before expressing their love to some one, they use search engines to look for some one who fits into their criteria and whom they can love, in their own way of course.....


So, for most of them expressing their love is no more a "Two Minutes Nerve Breaking" phenomenon now, rather its like making strategy before expressing their love to some one....and this LOVE, starting from search engines and then walking hand-in-hand in social networking sites,  happily ends with a "one night stay together"........
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here i leave you with a  typical n traditional Love Letter which i had read some where earlier...........

आप से जब कुछ कहने का ख्याल आया 
बड़े  जतन से हमने लबों को सजाया 
राह में जब भी आप नज़र आते थे
लबों पे सजाये हर बोल बिखर जाते थे
आज तक आपसे कुछ कह न पाये 
हार के अपने जज़्बात इस काग़ज़ पे सजाये 
यूं तो ज़्यादा नहीं बस इतनी सी ख़्वाहिश है
एक साफ सुथरे प्यार की नुमाइश है
हाँ कह देना अगर ये प्यार कुबूल है
ना कह देना अगर यह मेरी कोई भूल है
probably some of you might have got one like this at some point in ur life :)
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48 comments:

  1. OH yes i relate to that os much ONE NIGHT STAND...

    thats waht LOVe has become in this modern technological advanced world

    people meet on internet, then meet in person and have the one night stands and good byes .. ot the next SHIKAAR :)

    sorry if this sounds a rude comment

    the post is lovely i wish we cud go back to the good old days when I LOVE YOU meant something, and people gave there life to keep it alive ...

    http://mannbikram.wordpress.com/2011/06/23/thursday-challenge21-wooden/

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  2. ooops .. ignore the last line sorry , wrong cut paste :)



    Bikram's

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  3. Interesting write up Irfaan. I haven't seen such short lived love stories among anybody I know so not sure if I can totally agree with you on that. If it happens that way it is not love at all, right?!

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  4. IF that is what is really going on out there, I am very happy to be with someone and not looking for love in all the wrong places for all the wrong reasons!!

    http://jpweddingphotograpy.blogspot.com/2011/06/kitesurfingkiteboarding-what-rush.html

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  5. Interesting - a few days back you were talking about 13 years of marriage - now that's how I would define love! God Bless!

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  6. The Hindi kavita.....wah, wah! bahut khoobsoorat likha hai.


    aaj kal to dhinka chika ka zamaana hai.

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  7. Very true,short lived love stories and people
    No wonder there are many affairs and relationship
    It's like hit n trial method.,,,,,in US here I could never understand cua they believe in moving on.....

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  8. lovely, love is in the air :)

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  9. @Bikramjit.... yes, unfortunately for some of them this is what Love is all about.
    well it may be rude to some but its not wrong actually.
    thank you n yaa, lets hope so :


    @NRIGirl.... well, unfortunately its there and its always better if we don't know such things..... thank you.

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  10. @JIM.... yes you are Lucky that way:)... Thank you.


    @Amy n Arpit.... thanks for the blessings !!!


    @Alka Gurha.... Shukriyaa !!!
    Ji haan, Zamana bahut badal gayaa hai...

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  11. @Harman.... yes, some times its really hard to believe that how could they do this...butttt....



    @Rachit.... Thank you :)

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  12. Interesting article, expressions of love have changed and the new generation is more tech savvy than us oldies :)

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  14. haha so true! its the Information revolution after all! and it has provided people with the facilty of "delate" button...Once tagged as "kehtay hein jis ko Isheq, khalaul hai damgh ka.."is a matter of 2/3 quick chats before you decide to fall or not to fall for that person...there is no risk involved nw...take your chances,,explore the Cyber togetherness ...and if it doesnt work..no worries..delate+block marnay ka!

    gone are the days when people hurt in love shed tears all their lives...and thus the world saw some great poets gifted by the this grief..par not today! nah nah...aj ka insan is too busy for that...;p

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  15. People even weeps when there is an phone line or internet failure for even a second. Sigh!!

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  16. @sulekha.... oh yes, they are, thank you :)


    @Mishi.... you briefed it so nicely here, thank you so much !!!


    @Prateek.... indeed, they become so impatient when its not working for them...Thnks a lot.

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  17. Hindi Kavita is awesome. I would say it is evolution and not necessarily bad where we are heading.......may be I work in technology ...that is why.hahaha :)))

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  18. hey! please translate this poem for me..I wanna read it too and no problems...this has always been my fav topic..i will write on it too:-)

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  19. A.... Thank you...... and being with technology can't ever be bad but the thing is how n what for one use it :)

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  20. @Mishi.... here it is....

    AAP SE JAB KUCH KAHNE KA KHYYAL AAYA
    BADE JATAN SE HUMNE LABON KO SAJAAYA
    RAAH ME JAB BHI AAP NAZAR AATE THE
    LABON PE SAJAAYE HAR BOL BIKHAR JAATE THE
    AAJ TAK AAP SE KUCH KAH NA PAAYE
    HAAR KE APNE JAZBAAT IS KAAGHAZ PE SAJAAYE
    YUN TO ZYAADA NAHIN BAS ITNI SI KHWAAHISH HAI
    EK SAAFSUTHRE PYAAR KI NUMAAISH HAI
    HAAN KAH DENA AGAR YE PYAAR QUBOOL HO
    NAA KAH DENA AGAR YE MERI KOI BHOOL HO

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  21. How true.Times have changed and so have we.

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  22. Modes of expressing love has been changing, but does Love really change ??? Hmmm quite an interesting post. I liked the poem, first time reading it.

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  23. @Chowla Sir..... yes it has changed, Thank you



    @Ashwini.... well Love certainly has not changed, but its definition has changed with time ...... Thank you

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  24. Few decade back, married couples never used this word to express their feelings but they remained 'Made for each other'.

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  25. Your post brought a big smile to my face .Specially 'prem patra ki kavita'.I do remember receiving few back in school days.Now a days text messages,emails,echats ,sexting are the words.
    One can only hope for like what Ashwini said above -Modes of expressing love has been changing, but does Love really change ?

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  26. @Ayyangar Sir.... very true, in fact saying I LOVE YOU now n then has got no meaning unless one actually feel it.... thank you Sir।


    @Kavita.... well, infact there r so many who had got one similar to it..... lets see how many of us discloses it here :) thank you so much !!!

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  27. This is very very interesting Irfan. I grew up between the love letters and online relationship fad...

    Seeing how expressions evolved in such a way, I ask myself if there's more value on seeing the person at the other end (when it's an online relationship)...

    I love receiving love letters, but most of those I received were very superficial... anyhow, the act itself is touching ;)...

    Staring...looking at each other?...reminds me of my earlier days :P...

    I google translated your poem...and this is my tip, just say it...hahaha ;)

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  28. Irfan just because someone says I love you and has met through one of the internet portals, it does not mean that their expression or love is frivolous. If the sentiment remains the same, I don't mind using the new ways of saying it to each other. But, your kavita is mindblowing.

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  29. @irfan bhai- i totaly agree wit yo. i ve been a victim of such love. i wish vo prem vo jaman jaman ki kasme n all cud return back....:):)

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  30. Irfan love that poem..!!! I have often seen couples on the phone all the time. I remember those days when we only had land lines which could not be used so easily to call or receive calls because we did not know who would answer the call. Ab to lagta hai hi kano mein hi directly bol sakte hain! There are also some ready made messages that you can SMS email. The human creativity of expressing love seems to have gone. And ofcourse the language of silence- no one uses it these days !

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  31. Hello Irfanji,

    It is a pleasure for me as a friend, to find you truly romantic even after 12 years of happy married life..

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  32. hello!

    interesting post!

    everything in fair in love! hehe!!

    nice poem :D

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  33. Irfan bhai...one night stands have become common...technology, changing lifestyles, changing values may be the culprits......having a g/f and b/f is considered a fad, although the conversion rate of this relationship into marriage is low i would say.....

    btw cute poem....:-)

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  34. hi irfan,thanks for translating it is nice and simple,

    i have really beautiful memories about letters ,cannot say it love letters because before marriage me and my husband used to write each other for almost twice in a week ,it went for almost two years,
    we both have kept all these letters still in our drawers,

    whenever i read them strange joy and strength comes along,but one thing makes me smile that if someone else read it will never call them LOVE LETTERS because there is no expression of teen feelings but just sharing of daily life,

    but in deep my heart know they are true love letters

    god bless irfan

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  35. @Melisaa.... so you want me to follow the tip....interesting....:)


    @Rachna.... even i never said that developing a relation through net or whatever is not good, in fact i only tried to explain how ppl changed in expressing themselves with time....and kavita, you know it reminds so many things... :)


    @Divyansh.... lets hope so and my wishes are always with you..... thanks a lot.

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  36. @Meera Sundararajan.... these msgs are really making things worse, all one need to do is simply forward it.....no need to involve emotions n feelings.... thank you!!!


    @Tomz.... believe me my frnd the Romance gets increases as the numbers gets added to it.....:)


    @deekay.... you are very right my dear....thank you.

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  37. @magiceye.... thank you.


    @baili.... how sweet to know abt it...indeed they are true in all senses....and not to say that we totally miss THOSE EMOTIONS n THOSE FEELINGS these days.

    thank you so much.

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  38. awwwwwwwww so sweeeeeeeeet ! thankyou so much for translating that...this is truly sweet..I wish I had received something like this:-(

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  39. times are changing, life is becoming fast and loving style is also changing.
    yes now a days its becoming plan.
    nice lines

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  40. @Mishi.... hopefully you will...INSHA-ALLAH :)


    @SM.... Thank You !!!

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  41. That love letter in the end was really fun... :D

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  42. a true post... love stories like this world is shrinking

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  43. @Tanishka.... :) :) thank you !!!



    @Haritha.... thank you so much.

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  44. Really,the way to express love is changing generation wise! My God to love we need some criteria and that has made most famous lines ''Love Is Unconditional'' false ,So finally we need some conditions to love anyone!Ridiculous, isn't it? BTW..beautiful lines in that love letter;) ..Nice post indeed..
    Take care

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  45. Writing comment on a very good post is some what difficult...

    Very good minute observations ...

    Love and Love proposals are changing day by day ...

    Nice post ...

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  46. thnks for the compliments Sushant....

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  47. The way to express love has changed a lot. Very well portrayed via this post!

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